How To Get Out Of An Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck
Today you’ll find out how to get out of an unhappy relationship.
All relationships aren’t created equal, all you should know is that you have a right to be happy, a right to fantasize about your own Cinderella or Snow White story.
He may look like an irresistible prince charming, but there is no point in holding on to something simply because you do not want to be lonely. Yes, he is good looking, a nice six pack, an excellent account balance, and great in bed… that does not give him the right to treat you like crap, YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP.
Don’t be superstitious in relationships, you can keep trying until you find the right man who will offer you the respect and happiness you are entitled to as a lady, If it worked for ME and my 10 friends, it will work for you.
I must admit, what I’m about to write is very personal to me as I have walked this path many times before.
You’ve met the guy you thought was the perfect guy. He’s perfect in many ways, your friends are jealous of you, but he does not treat you right. You are very interested in him, even although he’s cheating on you but you hold on to the belief that he will change or turn a blind eye.
You’re just afraid to face the proven fact that something is not right. All you think is “God! She’s so hot, she’s so terrific! He lasts longer in bed and you fall in love with him. But he’s not in love with you, not even an inch of affection and care.
On paper, everything might look great, but you know something is missing. It’s virtually like you cannot put it into words or explain it to anyone because every time you do, everyone seems to be telling you how great this guy is to you.
All your single friends tell you they want to meet someone great. You agree with them but feel like there needs to be something more—just something that feels truer.
Remember! This is your life and I do not think you want to look old tired before the real prince charming sees you.
Check your happiness barometer. If the needle is all the time pointing at the storm cloud rather than the smiling sunshine face and you cannot see a way to swing it back, then you have a problem. Happiness is a state to which we should strive; after all, life is short and can only be made longer by adversity.
Ending a relationship is never easy and takes thought and strength. It’s going to leave scars, but you will ultimately heal, but I’m going to take you through seven quick steps to make a Breakup for your happiness.
How to Get Out of an Unhappy Relationship
Step 1: Take a Clean Break
NOW you know it is over, you must start over and meet someone appropriate. This is the really hard part to truly end. It will not be fun, but you must be brave.
You have to truly say the words, “It’s over.” There must be no confusion. Neither way is nice, but some ways are better than others, I stay in bed for a full week after me.
This is by far the toughest step, you do not have weeks to wallow in bed, so move on to the next step.
Step 2: Jump
Summon all the courage, look towards your happiness, consider the prince charming on the way, it must be your positive motivator. Tell him directly.
There were no sticky notes on the fridge for him to find when he came home empty or a letter from a lawyer. The only exception to this rule is if you suspect he may be violent. But at least leave a phone message explaining yourself.
Don’t be ambiguous. I cannot stress this enough. Many of us women do not want to hurt a man’s feelings or try to soften the blow, so they end discussions in odd ways.
We say things like, “Things aren’t going well right now, but that doesn’t mean I will always feel that way.” We must let him know what we need which is happiness before he leaves. The more humane thing is to say it directly. Don’t disguise what you mean.
Step 3: Meet Him in a Semi-Public Place
I met with him at the restaurant to talk so I would not feel cooped up and trapped—Bars are great places too. You do not have to see one another, but you are side by side.
Look your best, you never know who you might see on the street, let him see what he will lose, make him arrogant but do not despair, you should not care about his opinion.
Step 4: Feed his Ego
Start by telling him lots of positive things about him, how to do it right lol. Make him feel important, that he’s something of a man, they all the time want to feel like the alpha, the ego is all the time there, take advantage of that.
Step 5: Focus Your Reasoning on You—Not Him
This is the point where you tell him what you want, not what you think but what you want.
“I was at a point in my life where I needed someone to make me feel happy and treat me like a queen” just do not try to make excuses a few relationship not being a precedence “.
Learn to control your heart. It is yours, yours and your responsibility.
Step 6: Stay Away From Him For A Month
No phone calls, FB messages, texts, tones. It’s easier to accept a breakup if you don’t check in with each other, you may have to ask your friends for help if you can’t hold yourself back.
If he asks to stay friends with you, don’t lie and say it’s possible. Tell him, “I hope we can be friends one day, but right now we need to separate.”
Step 7: HAVE FUN!!
Most importantly, have fun, do things that make you laugh, smiling will make you the man you are, love you too.
Now you can see, happy relationship is not a fairy tale but real, my friend used to say ‘Happy relationship is in ME’. How about you!!!
Thank you for reading this article on how to get out of an unhappy relationship and I actually hope you take action on my advice. I wish you good luck and that I hope that its content has been a good help to you.
