How To Talk To Anyone Naturally: [18 Must Read Rules]

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Want to understand how to talk to anyone naturally? Then you are in the right place.

How are you in conversation? Do you regularly feel like you need help picking up on social cues and concepts for starting a conversation?

Maybe talking socially does not come naturally to you, but you need to find out how to do it effortlessly for work or social situations.

After reading this post, you’ll have the tools you need to start a conversation and simply talk to virtually anyone, even public speaking!

Many people find that shyness is a contributing factor to an absence of good communication skills.

Shy people are sometimes seen as arrogant or too stupid to join in the conversation.

For someone struggling with shyness, the panic and nervousness that occurs during conversation can be debilitating, leading to sweaty hands and stuttering to start and stop talking.

Even if you struggle with these barriers, this article will teach you how to overcome your difficulties and talk to anyone easily.

We humans do not just communicate with our speech; Our body language plays an enormous role in effective communication.

You can have all the right words, but if you use the wrong body language, people will not listen.

We’ll teach you how to be open and relaxed during informal conversations and even master body language for those times you need to direct a crowd or be in the spotlight.

Body language can provide clues as to how you are feeling, together with the words that are leaving your mouth, so it is important to understand the importance of this tool in communication and master it.

The final part of good communication skills is listening to other people.

This may seem surprising, since this text is ostensibly about learning how to talk to other people, but it’s also an awesome tool for creating significant conversations that create a desire for others to hear you in return.

Maintaining eye contact with others and following their words precisely gives validity to your conversation partner, and you will find out how to succeed in that area in this article.

You’ll also learn to remember their names, distinguish between facts and concepts to keep the conversation going and more talking tips.

All of these tricks and concepts combine to create an expert speaker who has confidence and knows how to start, maintain and finish great conversations!

How To Talk To Anyone Naturally:

1. Listen First

This may look like an odd first step in an article on speaking, but it is a really important tool in good conversation.

In order to stay relevant and in touch with others while speaking, you need to have the ability to really listen to what they’ve to say.

Good conversation is a combination of two or more people exchanging thoughts and concepts, more of a give and take than a monologue of one person.

To become an awesome speaker, you also need to work on your listening skills.

Show interest in the subject or concern for the situation the other person is talking about. Asking question. Don’t interrupt the speaker.

Make good eye contact when speaking and listening. If you can master this skill, people will enjoy talking to you because they will feel that you’re really listening.

2. Start a Conversation

This post says it will teach you how to talk to everybody, and it is an awesome lesson to practice.

Talk to everybody.

You’re not just saving your speaking skills for important people; You build confidence and ease by learning to strike up conversations with lots of individuals.

Choose people with whom you have even the slightest connection, such as your waitress at dinner, a parking attendant, or a bank teller.

This is an awesome opportunity to brush up on the skills that made you an awesome conversationalist, and it also provides an awesome opportunity to simply engage with others and provide yourself a mental boost.

If you can learn to be very confident by starting a conversation with anyone, then you will not be shy in significant conversations.

3. Practice, practice, practice

Like anything in life that you want to master, you need to practice until you are at a level that you’re comfy with.

You cannot decide to become an awesome speaker overnight and earn it; You need to practice until you get there.

Now, this should not take long, but you should practice this tip until you feel comfy using it in normal conversation.

Strike up a conversation, as mentioned in the last tip, and ensure you tailor your conversation to the person you are addressing.

There are some great basic skills to practice over and over.

Making eye contact, showing interest, refraining from interruptions and finding common interests and talking about them are some good things to practice.

4. Do your research

If you have the opportunity, it can be helpful to do a little research before the conversation.

For example, if you know you are having a work party one week and you want to have a significant conversation, find out a little about your co-workers or boss.

This will offer you an edge on what topics you speak about at the party.

If you have plans to attend a party, ask about the host and their interests or where they work.

If you find that you share your likes or dislikes, you will walk into your party with plenty of topics to use as conversation starters, interesting tidbits and genuine commonalities to speak about, leading to great talk that will leave an awesome impression!

5. Their son’s language also counts

You need to understand that other people’s body language is also very important.

You can read someone’s body language to understand whether or not they are in a positive or negative mood, to determine their interest and to determine if they’re engaging with what you must say.

You would never want to stand there and still talk to someone who is showing with their body that they’re not interested or want to move on.

Some common body language cues that indicate you need to end a conversation are: folded arms, body turning away, continually attempting to find the other person in the room, lack of eye contact, agitated behavior, and lack of attention or response to what you are saying.

If you notice an open demeanor, a friendly expression, a genuine interest in your conversation, your body fully turned towards you, good eye contact, and appropriate responses after you finish a sentence, you can rest assured that the conversation is going well.

6. Maintain eye contact

Just like body language, everybody maintains eye contact while talking to create significant conversation.

Eye contact implies interest, so if you maintain it while talking, you are letting the other person or group know that you are engaged in the conversation and interested in what they’ve to say.

It’s really annoying to try and talk to someone who looks everywhere but straight into the eyes of the person they’re talking to.

This behavior can appear agitated, dishonest, and disinterested, and can be distracting, so avoid this at all costs by simply fixing your gaze on the other person.

7. Invite friends to talk

There are some of us who just struggle to keep the conversation going.

If you are new to all this and want a straightforward way to try and build your speaking skills, enlist the help of a friend who excels at conversation.

Be open and honest about your flaws and let them know you need their help driving the conversation.

This way, if you run out of things to say, your friend can step in to keep the conversation flowing and redirect it back to you when you are ready to take the wheel again.

There are some people who love to talk and are naturally gifted in this field, in addition to those who are just good at the tips outlined here.

Both will work, be clear up front that you need help and let them know what you hope to attain.

They can even observe you in conversation and offer you some pointers on your strong points and areas to work on further.

8. Be the first

Even if you do not struggle with shyness, it can still be a little scary to strike up a conversation.

The simplest way to do this is to do it and say hello first. Follow that with an easy question like, “How are you?”

This puts you in command of the conversation and as they respond you can create the next response and question.

Breaking the ice is important (1) to show your ease and skill in conversation.

It also makes it comfy for the other person to take over the conversation.

It’s an awesome idea to create a repertoire of conversation starters and follow-up questions on your mind so that when a chance for conversation presents itself, you can easily pull something off your list and jump right in!

9. Remain neutral

One of the worst things you can do is meet new people and then jump right into a sensitive topic.

This makes the entire conversation uncomfortable, and it will leave a bad taste in the mouth of the other person you are talking to.

In general, maintain neutral topics when talking to new people, such as what is going on around you, the weather is coming, and other equally interesting topics.

These may seem lame, but they really work when you want to have a friendly, no-pressure conversation.

As you learn more about the person, you can venture into deeper territory with your topic, but it is normally best to keep away from religion and politics.

These are two topics that two strangers very barely agree on, so it is not the best way to strike up a conversation with anyone.

Keep it light and neutral and build from there.

10. Icebreaker

Did you know that virtually anything can be an ice breaker?

You only need one topic to start a conversation with anyone and lots of times, it ends up becoming something of a norm.

You can speak about the decoration, such as pointing out something uncommon in the design.

You can speak about the food, the weather, the party host or hostess, local news information that’s making headlines (no politics) otherwise you can supplement something about the other person to start a conversation.

There are a broad range of topics you can draw on to start a conversation, and lots of of these lead to deeper topics that are at the heart of the conversation and carry on.

It does not must be astonishing, but anything to break the ice is a good thing, and once you get past the initial awkwardness of breaking the ice with strangers, you can in fact have a good conversation.

11. Know how to end a conversation

Knowing how to end a conversation is just as important as knowing how to start one.

You never want to be the awkward person standing there the conversation stalled minutes ago.

It’s an odd feeling, it is uncomfortable, and good speakers would never get caught up in something like that.

In another instance, you need to close the conversation when you abruptly must move on.

Under no circumstances should you ever let a person or conversation hang.

Find a way to say something like, “Nice to meet you, let’s talk after dinner,” or “I really enjoyed our conversation, would you like to exchange information and talk some more?”

If you are in a rush, make sure to leave with a fast apology for the sudden departure and a suitable goodbye, such as, “I’m sorry I had to run, but it was nice to meet you.”

This makes the other person feel acknowledged and has a good impression of you.

12. Respond fully to inquiries

There aren’t any one word answers here!

It’s really annoying for anyone to ask a question in a conversation and get a brief response or a vague answer in return.

People ask questions because they actually want to find out about you, so you need to ensure you give the right answers to the questions.

If you do this, you will also get a full answer in return, making the conversation whole.

Often times, these answers pave the way for deeper topics and deeper conversations.

For example, if you briefly answer that bananas are your favourite fruit, most people haven’t any other choice.

Instead, if you respond with something like, “My favorite are bananas and I love them so much, I brought a banana tree back from Costa Rica and planted it in my container garden.”

These responses allow someone to ask questions about your trip, the country of Costa Rica, your trips overseas, your container park, and your home.

See the difference?

You will not get anywhere with short answers, so think twice and supply a scrupulous response full of new topics to speak about.

13. Give and take

You need to strike a balance in the conversation. You do not want to be the one talking or listening.

You need to do equal parts of both.

You talk for a while and ask questions, then let them answer and talk for a while without interrupting.

These ups and downs create fluid conversations where everybody feels like they’ve a turn to listen and share something of their own.

People will walk away from a conversation doing all the talking, and folks are highly irritated by someone interrupting or talking about them.

Avoid this stuff at all costs and ensure you are engaged, attentive and share the conversation space.

14. Share something personal

At the start of a conversation, as another way to break the ice, you can tell something about yourself.

Something funny or quirky or simply a common interest. You can comment that you have the same shoes, jacket, purse or sunglasses.

If you see someone admiring a piece of art or listening to music, you can comment that you really enjoyed it too.

This opener dives into deeper, more relatable topics, and knowing that you willingly share something about yourself inspires people to share things about themselves.

In an already ongoing conversation, you can share something personal to change the course of the conversation, like saying that you want to watch a certain movie, or that you really like the local sports team.

It’s important to share personal details like these in a good conversation.

However, do not get too personal with the details until you know the person. It can be awkward and put yourself out there too much.

Keep it easy and lightly personal.

15. A little quiet is okay

Most people think that silence in conversation is the death knell for your speech.

If the silence lasts endlessly without anyone saying anything, that may be true, but a brief silence can be a good thing.

They can give everybody an opportunity to regroup and say something fresh.

If the silence lasts too long and makes you uncomfortable, you can begin talking a few new topic otherwise you can end the conversation.

Most people panic in this situation, so if you handle it smoothly, you will put others comfortable as the silence continues.

16. Don’t judge

Most of us make quick judgments on people we just meet.

Sometimes, you do not even intend to do it, but you make assumptions about people (2) based on how they dress, how they act, their personal grooming, or how they handle themselves in conversation.

It would be a mistake to jump to conclusions, as many people may feel awkward starting a conversation and it takes a while for them to feel comfy, let their guard down and have interaction in a lovely conversation.

It is advisable to hold off on any judgment until you have had the opportunity to speak with them at length, hear their opinions and interests, and have a real conversation.

Many friends or great networking opportunities are missed as a result of rushed judgments, so keep an open mind when striking up conversations and meeting new people.

17. Pay attention to social cues

This one goes together with paying attention to body language, but it is also important to pay attention to social cues.

With people, particularly when talking to a group of individuals, there are often underlying things at play.

You may be in the middle of an awesome conversation, but if someone else walks over and you tuck them in, the conversation goes dead… but why?

If you are paying attention, you may notice that the other person shows agitated body language or looks uncomfortable when someone else enters the room.

You may not know it, but there may be some negative history between these two people and by inviting the second person to join the conversation, you are doing the same thing by silencing further good conversation.

There are hundreds of social dynamics that you may not know about, but if you learn to pay attention to social cues, you can stay up to date and avoid messy or uncomfortable situations.

You can even use social cues to know who to communicate with, which groups work well in shared conversations, and when to relax.

This is actually a useful tool for becoming an awesome conversationalist, so stay on the lookout for these pointers.

18. Open to learn new things

This may come as news, but you do not know everything!

It’s a joke, but the reality is, you must be open to learning something new in conversation.

Everyone you meet is unique and may have something interesting to share that you did not know about.

Conversations are an awesome way to learn new things and also share things with others that they may not know about.

Take the time to listen to what others must say and if you do not know anything about the subject, let them know.

They can then adapt what they say to someone who has never heard of the subject.

It will be fun for them, and add deeper value to the conversation if someone is sharing it and the other person is learning new things.

By all means, if someone says something and you do not know what it’s, do not just agree or indicate that you understand the conversation.

It will at all times come back to bite you!

If this situation occurs, you can choose to say that you’re clueless and ask them to explain the subject otherwise you can decide to leave the conversation at that point with a polite goodbye.


If you have read and mastered all the tips in this article on how to talk to anyone naturally, congrats, you are an awesome conversationalist!

Most of it takes re-reading and practicing a few tips to get there, but it is a good one and this post is at all times there for you.

I hope you have learned everything you need to know to feel comfy starting and leading good conversations.