How To Stop Hating Yourself: 5 Steps To Keep That Feeling Away

In this new article you’ll find out how to stop hating yourself.

If you are tired of wanting what other people have and wishing that you were someone else, this guide is for you.

You can find out how to love yourself and how to start taking your own happiness seriously. You have the power to change your life. This process starts by changing how you view and valuate yourself.

This guide will offer you five easy steps and methods on how to develop more self-confidence and self love. Through this process, you’ll find out how to create the life that you have all the time wanted and how to attract the right people.

When you move through life crammed with self-hatred, it’s impossible to form satisfying relationships or to recognize and enjoy the various pleasures that come your way.

I will teach you how to identify the source of your self-hatred and how to move beyond it. It’s going to show you how to stop automatic negative thoughts or ANTs.

By doing so, you’ll learn:

• How to overcome the anxiety and depression that self-hatred often causes.
• You will think better thoughts, take better actions
• You live a better life overall.

How To Stop Hating Yourself:

1: Think Back To Your Childhood And Take Stock Of The Negative Messages You Received

Self-hatred is not a normal emotion or state of mind. In the interest of self-preservation, most people like themselves and want to make good lives for themselves.

Unfortunately, people are often given the wrong messages during the earliest stages of their lives. They are made to feel undesirable, unloved or even stupid.

Although kids are often able to recognize themselves as being better than these comments suggest, these ideas are internalized. They can go on to cause a lifetime of heartache.

This is why it’s important to identify the source of your self-hatred. You might think that your negative emotions only date as way back as your last bad relationship or bad experience. In reality, however, this emotion possibly dates back to your earliest years.

More importantly, it’s possibly the reason why you have had so many bad relationships or bad experiences. If your childhood was entrenched in negativity, you’ll keep creating these same circumstances for yourself throughout the years.

You will surround yourself with people who continue to send the same negative messages.

The only way to change this is by identifying the negative messages that you have internalized and then replacing these with positive messages.

If you remember that you were called ugly, fat or stupid as a child, you must start reprogramming your mind to know that you’re charming, perfectly proportioned and smart.

Just like other people have had the power to shape your mind about who you are, you have the power to shape your mind about who you are as well.

Quick Tips For Erasing Past Messages:

Take a long walk at least three days each week and use this time to reflect on your past.

Becoming conscious of how negative statements have affected your life will let you consciously address this problem.

Write a letter to the person who played the greatest role in shaping your negative opinions of yourself.

Tell this person how his or her comments hurt you. You can send this letter or keep it. The act of expressing these thoughts will help you to heal.

Forgive the people who have hurt you throughout the years.

This may take time but you should actively work towards forgiveness. Recognize that people who are verbally abusive were likely abused themselves. The ability to forgive will set your free from the binds of your past.

Write a letter to yourself.

Forgive yourself for any mistakes that you have made and regrets you might have. This will offer you the opportunity to move forward guilt-free.

The Benefits:

You will finally be capable to start seeing yourself for who you truly are. Although you might have been surrounded by careless people throughout your childhood, this doesn’t mean that you must spend your entire life bearing the weight of their careless words.

When you discover that you only think of yourself as being useless, stupid or undesirable merely because someone told you that you were, you can begin shaping new and better opinions of yourself.

This is much better than simply repeating these same, harmful messages to yourself repeatedly.

2: Start A Journal And List Your Attributes

You have good qualities.

Everyone does.

Most people fail to recognize the great things that they do for others and the various selfless actions that they take.

Start a journal and fill it with nothing but a list of your attributes. Push yourself to make new entries everyday and don’t stop until the whole journal is full.

If you have a hard time getting started you should recognize that your efforts at self-improvement are an attribute. People who want to feel better about themselves are making a proactive step to becoming better, healthier and more productive individuals.

This is something good that you can say about yourself and it is a fantastic place to start.

When you start being specifically hard on yourself, take time to revisit your journal. Read through the various entries that you have made and reflect on the positive things that you have done.

Think about why you did this stuff.

• Were you brave even although you felt afraid?
• Did you stand up for others when nobody else would?

The more that you try to consider the various positive aspects of your personality, the more you’ll be capable to see yourself in a positive light.

This is a major step in learning to love who you are. Never write anything negative about yourself in this journal. This is not a study of why you should hate yourself. It is an effort to learn more about why you should love yourself.

Quick Tips For Recognizing Your Attributes:

Write down several of your strengths.

Recognize how you have persevered in spite of your hurt.

Make quick notes in your journal concerning the type of person you want to be.

Devise strategies for moving closer to becoming this person.

Make an effort everyday to do something good for somebody else and something good for yourself.

Record these efforts in your journal.

The Benefits:

Keeping a journal is an awesome way to chart your growth in this process. More importantly, keeping a journal that lists all your good qualities is going to help you change your way of thinking.

People who hate themselves are programmed early in life to do so. This may be intentional programming or unintentional.

You must make a purposeful effort to reprogram yourself by changing your way of thinking. Your journal and the included lists are going to be your most precious tools in this process.

They are going to force you to actively change your mind about how you feel about you. They are going to prove to you that you have good qualities, that you’re likable person and that you do have value.

Your journal will also prove helpful when you get ready to tackle Step #3.

3: Shut Down Your Automatic Negative Thoughts

Just as everybody has good qualities, everybody is also plagued by automatic negative thoughts or ANTs.

These are thoughts that pop up at random and they haven’t any real value or purpose except to tear people down. When you are ready to try something new or have an interest in approaching a new person, this is when your ANTs are going to come roiling to the surface.

You will possibly start listing the reasons why you are too stupid to try something new or too unlovable to be worth knowing. When these thoughts pop up, most people find themselves giving up on trying something new or on meeting a new person, even before they’ve tried.

This is why self-hatred can be such a lonely and miserable experience.

You must find out how to close these thoughts down.

Just because all people have automatic negative thoughts, this doesn’t mean that they’ve to be controlled by them. Think back to your journal and the various entries that you have made.

When your mind tells you that you’re stupid, respond by listing one of the items that you have written down in your journal.

This is a fight to gain ownership and control of your mind. You must battle the inner voice that’s all the time beating you down.

You can do this by building yourself up.

Remember that you’re valuable, good and worthy of good things. Although this is an internal fight, there may be times when you must wage this battle with other people.

Your life might be crammed with negative people who continuously tear you down. Whenever you are confronted by one of these individuals, counteract their statements by telling them that you’re a good person.

If someone calls you ugly, stupid or useless, tell them that you’re priceless, charming and brilliant.

Make positive statements (1) to yourself and to others, even if you don’t believe them.

By speaking positive words and thinking positive thoughts, you’ll ultimately come to believe in yourself and begin viewing yourself in a positive light.

Quick Tips For Controlling ANTs

Get rid of the people in your life who tear you down.

Stop keeping company with false friends who don’t support your efforts to love and value yourself.

Engage in activities with positive-minded people.

Join the gym or a sports league. Active adults tend to be more positive-minded than those who lead sedentary lives.

Remember, people who feel good about themselves will be supportive of your efforts to feel good about yourself as well.

Try diaphragmatic breathing when you feel anxious or stressed.

This is breathing with your diaphragm. Simply place your hand on your belly. When you inhale, your belly should extend but your shoulders shouldn’t puff up. Practice breathing while watching your hand move in and out with your breaths.

Breathing through the diaphragm is calming and will help to close down negative thinking. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold your breath for several seconds and then slowly release the air through your mouth.

Several minutes of diaphragmatic breathing has been shown to change brain patterns and reduce stress hormones.

The Benefits:

Some people never make an effort to change or fight against their automatic negative thoughts. They spend their whole lives crammed with anxiety, depression and self-hatred. You don’t must. When you take up this battle, you’ll be preparing yourself for a life of action.

If you can battle your own mind and win, nothing can stop you. Best of all, everyday is a new opportunity to wage this war and win it. If you end up getting beaten down by automatic negative thoughts, return to your journal and get ready for a new fight on the very next day.

By staying persistent, you’ll change the way that you see yourself and you’ll become far less affected by what others say about you too.

4: Recognize Your Right To Love Yourself And Be Happy

Some people feel guilty about loving themselves.

It nearly feels sinful.

The truth, however, is that those who love themselves tend to be better people than those who hate themselves.

They can be nice to others because they aren’t continuously riddled with anger, depression and despair. They are less jealous, because they believe that they’re worthy of good things and that they can get what they want out of life.

Self-hatred is limiting and you won’t be able to lead a good life or be good to others until you get rid of your self-hatred. This means that you owe it to yourself and everybody around you to find out how to stop hating yourself and how to be happy.

It is important to note that not everyone seems to be born being happy and optimistic.

Happiness and optimism are choices.

You can choose to keep living your life in a state of self-hatred, jealousy and depression otherwise you can choose to recognize and fight for your right to be happy.

Not only are you going to feel better about who you are, but others will feel better about being around you. Your spouse, kids, friends, co-workers and associates will recognize the difference in your attitude.

Quick Tips For Learning To Accept Your Right To Be Happy

Write down three things that you want in life.

Make a list of steps that you need to take in order to get these thing. Recognize that jealousy is usually rooted in the believe that you’re not capable of getting what others have.

Prove to yourself that you’re.

Make sure to give yourself one day each week to relax and regain your sense of balance.

This should be a day dedicated to pampering yourself.

• • Curl up and watch your favourite movies,

• Read a good book or give yourself a pedicure.

This is all about learning how to enjoy spending time alone and doing good things for yourself.

Take up a new hobby or return to an old one.

Foster your natural skills. If you love to paint, dance, take pictures or writer poetry, do this stuff with abandon. Recognize that you have the right to do what makes you happy.

The Benefits:

As soon as you recognize and accept your right to love yourself and to experience happiness, this whole process will be easier and your life will become far better.

The negative messages that you received during the early stages of your life have likely made you feel that you’re deserving of unhappiness and depression.

People who feel useless don’t consider themselves as being worthy of happiness. You must change this kind of thinking. Just like you are training yourself to combat negative thoughts, you must actively fight against the idea that you’re unworthy.

Tell yourself that you’re lovable and worthy of affection.

Tell yourself that you do have the power to be happy and that you deserve happiness.

Add these statements to your journal and speak them out loud to yourself in the mirror or while driving alone in your car.

The true benefit of these efforts is that the more that you do this stuff, the more that you’ll begin seeing yourself as being worthy (2).

5: Change What You Don’t Like About Yourself

Sometimes self-hatred is in fact rooted in things that people want to change about themselves.

Surprisingly, these are often things that people have the power to change. They simply haven’t pushed themselves into action or they haven’t started seeing themselves of being worthy of these changes.

For instance, you might hate yourself because you feel fat, awkward and unattractive. You have the power to change this stuff! You possibly keep talking yourself out of making an effort by listening to your automatic negative thoughts.

One effective way to beat your negative thoughts is by taking action when they start to discourage you. If your automatic thoughts tell you that you’re too fat to get a date, start working out and begin being more social.

You are never going to break your negative thinking patterns until you start taking real action.

Before committing to any program of change, however, you must know that change doesn’t occur overnight.

If you want a better career, a better lifestyle or a better body, give yourself time to get this stuff. Make sure that you don’t put so much pressure on yourself to become someone or something different, that you grow discouraged and provide up.

While you diet, get new professional training, start rebuilding your finances or doing whatever it’s that you need to do to become who you want to be, you must make a constant effort to love yourself. Just like you are right now.

This love is going to offer you the strength that you need to keep pushing forward. It is going to bolster your belief that you’re worthy of the happiness that you’re seeking. It will also make sure that you are literally happy and content, once you have reached the goals that you have set.

When you start working towards a state of affection, there’s one other important change that you’ll must make.

• You must change the people that you’re around.
• Stop being tolerant of individuals who tear you down.
• End relationships with people who don’t make you feel good about yourself, lovable and worthy of affection.

Quick Tips For Making Change

Try something new everyday, even if it’s just a new food.

This will get you in the mindset of shaking things up a bit. Self-hatred can turn people into creatures of habit. Do all that you can to throw yourself out of old ruts.

Get active.

Join the gym or start walking or riding a bike several times per week. This will boost your endorphins and help you to gain and maintain a positive mindset.

Write a list of habits that you want to break and then post this list in a visual area.

Create a jar for slip-ups. Every time you revert back to old, bad behaviors, put a quarter in this jar.

When it’s full, donate the money to your favourite charity.

The Benefits:

You cannot expect your life or the way that you feel about yourself to change until you start taking action.

The real problem with hating yourself is the indisputable fact that self-hatred can keep you from taking action, particularly in the areas that you need to be most active.

Self-hatred tears people down and the automatic negative thoughts that come with it, stop people from building themselves back up.

Making an effort to change the things that you don’t like about yourself won’t make you learn the art of self love overnight. It will, however, make you feel more confident.

It will strengthen your new-found sense of value and self-worth.

It will also start moving you closer to becoming the very person who you want to be.

Summary:

You must challenge your negative thinking before you’ll be strong enough to start taking actions to change what you don’t like about yourself.

You even have to accept that you have a right to love yourself and to feel happiness, before you can see that you’re worth the actions you must take.

Keeping a journal is going to keep you strong throughout this process. It will serve as a constant reminder that you’re good, valuable and value caring about.

I want to thank you for taking the time to read my article about how to stop hating yourself. I sincerely hope its contents have been a good help to you.